On Not Becoming a Lesbian
Although I have preferred the company of my own sex to that of men for as far back as I can remember, I've never had a lesbian...
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Daphne Merkin
Everyday detrius
Musing about death and the self Contemporary life, ever thrusting forward, straining for the next new thing, seems to leave little room...
Sex and the Cinema: How Hollywood Shaped Desire
Who doesn’t love movies? When my mother was gravely ill, there was nothing she wanted more than to watch the screeners of new films I...
Between Love and Madness
It was a summer of love—no, make that sex, the exquisitely passionate kind that taught Daphne Merkin the thrill of obsession Girls in...
My Boy Friend: I love him but I'm not in love with him
He's gay, I love him, but I'm not in love with him. Get over it. Daphne Merkin puts a bullet in the fag hag I am standing at water's edge...
When Sex Becomes Unsexy
Girls,Grey, sexting, porn—in this erotically charged moment, Daphne Merkin wonders: Whatever happened to great sex? A group of young...
Are Single Women the World's True Romantics?
I am sitting with my sister-in-law, a contented wife and mother of four, in the garden of her summer house on a balmy afternoon. We are...
What, Exactly, is the Future of Sex?
It is a mid-July weekend, and in my little rented house in Bridgehampton, New York, I am glued to the TV, indifferent to the fact that it...
Publicly, We Say #MeToo. Privately, We Have Misgivings
All those years, all that money, all that unrequited love. It began way back when I was a child, an anxiety-riddled 10-year-old who...
Writings & Reviews
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